What better way to start anew than by embarking on a journey in becoming your best sexual self? Now is the perfect time to embrace your sensual side and let loose the sexual butterfly that lies within. With this in mind, global sexual wellness brand Lovehoney’s resident psycho-sexologist Chantelle Otten has shared her top tips for coming out of your sexual shell.
Getting Back to Basics
The first step in coming out of your sexual shell starts with feeling confident in your skin. So get dressed in something that makes you feel amazing. Whether that’s putting on a dress you love, a pair of jeans that make your butt look great, or wearing your favourite perfume — your confidence will skyrocket when you look good and feel good.
Or, if you really want to turn up the heat and ignite some sensual energy, slip into some sexy lingerie that really empowers you. Lingerie is different for everyone, but to me, lingerie is any clothing or undergarment that is designed to make you feel sexy. You may love a matching bra and panty set, or if you’re more into leather, try a wet-look bodysuit
Dust off your favourite sexy underwear and see how quickly you start to feel sensual. Or, since Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, why not treat yourself to some new lingerie — something that makes you excited (and maybe a little bit frisky).
Explore Your Body
Once you’re feeling fabulous in your lingerie, it’s time to get reacquainted with your body.
Being out of the game for a little while can make us feel somewhat lost, particularly if you’re single. But don’t worry, with a little practise, you’ll be feeling fabulous and in touch with your body in no time. Because trust me, it’s just like riding a… bike.
So, before you venture on that much-anticipated first date, it might be a good idea to re-discover your body through sensual touch and self-pleasure. Masturbation is an amazing way to reignite that passion in your body, because after all, you’re the only one who knows exactly where and how you like to be touched. But if you’re reading this thinking, “Ahh, I have no idea,” then all the more reason to find out!
Run yourself a nice warm bath, light some candles and let those hands wander! The longer we go without sex, the harder it may seem to rediscover our sexual passion. But we only need a single flame, so let’s start it from the comfort of our rooms before we take on the rest of the world.
Create Goals
Now that you’ve reignited your sexual flame and are feeling more empowered, it’s time to set some goals that you would like to achieve sexually. Have a think about what you desire, what you’re craving and fantasising about the most.
Whether it’s trying a new position, experimenting with a new toy or even reconnecting with an old flame, writing down these fantasies makes for a very exciting to-do list.
Try Something New
This sexy to-do list might be the inspiration you needed to think outside the box and discover your deepest desires. So don’t hold back, give yourself permission to dream BIG and free those fantasies.
There are endless ways to incorporate fantasy into real life, from sexy lingerie and sex toy kits, to erotic literature and games to get you in the mood.
Once you’ve written your erotic dream list, you might need to go back a step to that self-loving phase… particularly if you’re being a bit descriptive!
Be Kind
Re-discovering your body and coming out of your sexual shell is a journey, so it’s important to be kind to yourself. It may take some time, but it’s worth the effort.
At first, you may feel overwhelmed, or maybe even a little silly, but don’t give up! Your pleasure should be your priority and practice makes perfect. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day!
